If it weren’t for Fe (Extroverted Feeling), the world would be fairly dull and dead place to be. Everyone would appear to be a zombie or as if on tranquilizers from without (maybe zombies do experience an inner feeling of wonderment toward the world with Fi, but this is not readily expressed).
Fe provides the breath of life for the group, lightening up the atmosphere, loosening up all the tight screws, giving the world around it personality and spirit of fellowship. Fe is a much needed to prevent a colorless existence. Sparta was Sparta because Fe was repressed. It may have worked (Te), but was that place really worth living in and being part of (Fe)?
The entrance and exit of a type with strong and valued Fe has quite a noticeable effect. When the Fe type comes in, everyone becomes involved and engaged and the mood noticeably energizes, as if the Fe type is telling everyone, “Life is celebration!” When the Fe type leaves, there still can be shared interaction and a quiet sense of kinship and mutual love (Fi, not just Fe, is actually an interpersonal function), but there will be no sense of liveliness. “Liveliness” is the key word for Fe.
Both feeling functions “give life” in a certain way, but this feature of feeling much more readily apparent in Fe in the form of “liveliness.” Without its potent and vibrant immediate impact on the environment there would be no culture in the sense of a mutually interactive community with active participants. If such a shared experience amongst his or her fellows does not exist, a Fe type will create a mission that would provide for it. The mission may even be secondary, or a means to an ends, to the sense of involvement and excitement it creates.
A desire for harmony is certainly quite noticeable in Fe types, but actually Fi has a strong need for harmony too (not just inner harmony, but Fi desires a shared harmony between people). If the peace between parties is causing staleness, and life appears to be too “settled-in,” Fe may cause drama and even controversy in order to “awaken” people. Fe’s main goal is to provide emotional involvement, excitability, and dynamism and sometimes stirring up the pot and less positive emotions comes quite in handy in this regards. Expressed negativity would be better than apathy. If life was just a constantly stable and unperturbed, shared harmonious quaint atmosphere between all parties at all times, which actually is the dream life of many INFPs (if only such could ever happen), it would be quite a snore.
Fi is seen as interested in personal freedom and as oppressed by the “Fe society,” but Fe demands its own sort of freedom that Fi may stifle. Fe is “appropriate” and Fi as not, but it really depends on the circumstance. Being able to openly express all sorts of emotions freely, openly, and loosely whether it is happiness, sadness, or anger, and even strong, edgy opinions—is a part of Fe that is not always aligned with a need for harmony or “appropriateness.” You kind of want to alert them “TMI! TMI! Too much over-sharing!” This tendency may seem misguided, senseless, or reckless to other types, but this is a poor assessment. It is important to have the wealth of a vibrant shared emotional experience in order to have a sense of connection with others. Fi is seen as “deep” but Fe can really quickly deepen bonding this way. Fi expression can resort to staying at shallow, stiff polite end in interaction for the sake of harmony (Fi form of “appropriateness”), and can in fact remain there and not venture further, leading to festering resentments or unspoken positive sentiments.
In healthy Fe, an abundance of expressed positive emotions and harmony (especially of the signature festive, ebullient sort of Fe types) is preferred over conflicts. This expression of Fe allows for a more vibrant energy in the atmosphere than a toxic conflict-ridden environment. However, it depends on the individual Fe person whether the purposes are wholesome. Less healthy Fe types will rely heavily on creating drama and conflict, even splitting people apart by turning them against one another, in order to keep a “lively” emotional atmosphere whirling about, tiresomely sucking everyone alongside with their emotions, so alas they can have excitement to their own colorless existence. We got your diva. But a number can actually be quite underhanded and below-the-radar when it comes to the trouble they are stirring. Towards this ends, Fe can become quite a selfish function that endangers group cohesion.
SIDE EFFECTS: Extroverted Feeling is responsible for liking every post on Facebook, taking one’s posts down if not enough people are liking it, for Fe types to privately message you to take your post down because it might rub others the wrong way, and for them to tag you in a post that says “I love you all! Happy to see you all at my Thanksgiving Party! Woo!” making some Fi types secretly cringe inside but then realized they are loved. Extroverted Feeling can cause wrinkles earlier in life due to MES (mass expressiveness syndrome). Please use responsibly.
EFFICACY: Bonding behavior has strong effect size (0.05, p<0.5). Unfortunately, despite Fe’s attempts to keep the group happy, some INTJs will continue to post on FB the most awkward things and ENTPs the most outrageous.